Why This Feminist Changed Her Name
As a feminist, the decision to change my name or not took me a long time to decide. In the end I decided to add my husband's name to the end of mine rather than replacing my name with his. Read on if you want to know how I came to this decision.
I am a feminist and I did end up changing my name. However, it was a tough decision because growing up I loved my name. It has a good ring, it's short, and it was mine. I always planned on keeping my original name.
As I was planning my wedding and talking with my now husband, we did talk about changing my name. He is also a feminist (wouldn't have married him otherwise) and he didn't care one way or the other if I changed my name or not. However, he did want our future children to have his last name. And that got me thinking. Up to that point I was just thinking about myself and how I felt about it. I hadn't even thought of what my kids would think or feel.
So I got to thinking. Thinking about how I would have felt if my mom had a different name. Thinking about why I really liked my name. Thinking about why I want to keep my original name. Thinking about what I want my kids to think and feel about their own name.
I realized that the reason I love my name so much is because it not only belonged to me but because it belonged to my whole family. I want that for my future children too. So I didn't get rid of my name. Instead I added my husband's last name to the end of mine. This way I am not losing my identity but rather adding a new chapter to my name and my life.
Did you change your name after you got married? Why or Why Not? Let me know in the comments below.